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I started 2021 committed to do it. I am going to talk about the sh*t we don’t talk about. It’s time we start having real conversations about all the stuff we deal with but we are too afraid to expose. You know, all that stuff that, for some reason, is taboo. Plus, a lot of incredible people look up to me but all they see is the “finished” product. I have been through some serious sh*t and I am ready to open up and share how I overcame so many challenges. Trust me, we are never a “finished” product. We are all in development. I sure am.

This will be the beginning of a blog series and also a series of weekly “Lives” on Facebook and Instagram. I can write all day but, to see me talking about it and discussing some issues with other people will tie nicely with the blog. So, yes, this is happening. I will talk about eating disorder, child abuse, depression, anxiety, PTSD, homelessness, discrimination, sexuality, relationships, career, lack there of, you name it. No topic will be considered out of line… Because it shouldn’t be. Since social media became a thing we have become a society that believes anything that is on the screen. We have lost the ability to think critically and to be vulnerable. We have idolized people who are “successful” and we have been trying to achieve something that, in the end, is not real. What is success anyways? Who decided that to be successful you have to be loaded, drive a certain type of car, dress in a certain way and be in places we would never imagine ourselves in?

As the saying goes, “everyone wants to go to Heaven but no one wants to die.” I can say that I died many times. And each time I have come alive, I have become a better person. I am beyond grateful for the people that showed up in my life when I most needed. And then it dawned on me, I had to go through all this sh*t to be here. It’s insane because I am grateful for all the shi*t I have been through. Now, let me be honest, it takes a lot of work to be grateful for sh*t and you may not be there yet. And that is totally fine. My goal is to get us there. Sh*t keeps coming my way but with the awareness I have today I can look at it and breathe. I learned to respond and not react. I learned to take a breath and not act on impulse. I learned that I can be myself and not need anyone’s approval. Again, it takes work but it is absolutely worth it.

Have you ever asked yourself why you wear so many masks and why you have to live in a way that was set by someone else? Hmmmm, think about that. Whatever sh*t you are going through, trust me, you are not alone. And that’s what I want. I want to expose these stories and, a lot of them I will base on my own life experiences. With time, I am sure I will have people sharing their sh*t and we will have amazing discussions. What’s my ultimate goal? To open the lines of communication. To talk about sh*t that no one is willing to talk about. To be transparent and vulnerable. To create a community of human beings who may need to hear a word of hope or that they are not going through sh*t alone.

Let me be perfectly clear, I am not here to coach anyone. I am a believer in therapists, psychiatrists, healers, and all kinds of amazing professionals. All I am is a survivor of sh*t and if I can share how I have dealt with it all, I will have done my job. Now, are you ready to talk about the sh*t no one talks about? Join me every Thursday at 8pmET/5pmPT on Instagram and Facebook. I can’t wait to e-see you!


Simone Santos

I am Brazilian by birth, American by heart! I created Cool N Chic with the intent of spreading the message that we are all "cool" in our own and authentic ways. Cool N Chic was created to bring people of all backgrounds together through mindfulness, self-development, healthy living and the desire to be fearlessly authentic. Even though I created this blog, it is not mine. It is ours and I welcome you, your wisdom and your energy.

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